I was reading the poem "Summer Day" by Mary Oliver and was struck by the last part:
I don't know exactly what a prayer is.
I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down
into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass, how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields,
which is what I have been doing all day.
Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
The answer for a Christian is to love God and to love one another. This means to humble yourself. We are all made in the image of God. We need to listen to one another, to learn from one another, to honor one another. If you do loving things for someone, you will begin to love and your relationship will improve. I have found this to be true in every situation--an unloveable student, a difficult coworker, even my husband at times. This means you will put her feelings and opinions and successes above your own. You will seek to learn from another's experiences.
You don't want to be silent or proud when you love someone. You want to be the cheerleader and the peacemaker.
Blessings to you.
